How to be a SL Porn Star was all about being a porn star and I didn't say much about being a photographer or a director. I left that up to each individual to figure out on their own. But in "Chaingang Chat" this Saturday, one wrote, "When I get better (at photography) I'll ask people to pose for me." to that another wrote "Me too." and I wrote "Just do it."
Now I know that's easy for me to say I have been around forever and have tons of experience, so then I let out a little secret. "Don't listen to the voices in your head that says, "They are wondering if you know what you're doing." I wrote. To that no one responded, so I went on "I still hear that voice at every shoot I do!". To that most agreed that voice holds them back atleast some. I then wrote "But the voice that silents that voice is the one that says, "You won the award for Sexiest Best Director in 2015, your the best and they fucking know it!!!" Yes that's what straightens me out!!!
The point is most of use hear that voice of doubt, you need to tell yourself something to drive yourself forward and not give into that voice!! What does it know it's in your head, people aren't really telling you that. If no one wanted to model/pose for you then worry. The best way to get experience is to have people pose for you, not just shooting pictures of yourself sitting on a beach or wherever. Most times your model will give you positive feed back tell you they liked the pictures and thank you for doing them. It's a great feeling and much better than just taking pictures of yourself and it also helps to quiet that voice at least for a little while.
It's hard to be a porn star with longevity without creating, the ones you read the names of most usually aren't solely porn stars they are also bloggers, photographers or directors too. Many drift away from porn with their shattered dreams because the expected it to be easy. Like going to a store where the sales people work on commission, all eager to help because it's what puts food on their table. Like saying "I want to buy a car!" "I'm here to do Porn!". But we don't get paid, ok maybe once in a while someone will commission for some photos or a movie role but that doesn't happen much. Being a photographer or director cost money, props, animations, sets, editing software. sure most want to help but there is no capitalist reasons driving us.
So if you want to become a "superstar" or dethrone me you better hush those negative voices in your head and get to creating!!! Oh and another thing! I have never really considered myself a philanthropist (not a billionaire for one) but I have always had this desire, drive, need to put others in my productions. I mean I could very easily make movies where I was always the star instead of like my last production for example "Bad Santa Clause" Starring Vicki and Sil, not going to link it because this isn't about getting views (its the best movie ever). But I really like Vicki and only got her in one episode of Intergalactic SLUT, I would like to get her in more just don't know if that will happen. So even though I really like the role of a hot sexy misses Claus I never intended it for me. Sil did a super fantastic job in Legs Wide Spread and never got a sex scene and is fun to be around, so I finally got him that.
So, when you start creating please don't just greedily think about yourself, remember what it was like when you were starting out and frustrated cause no one want to use you. Perhaps the best feeling is sharing letting others enjoy being the focus and how excited they get.
Hey it's the holidays so Merry Christmas!!
